Love and marriage, love and marriage, go together like a horse and carriage…wait, that’s the wrong theme song! “Here’s the story, Of a lovely lady, Who was bringing up three very lovely girls. All of them had hair of gold, Like their mother, The youngest one in curls.” You remember that song from the TV...
Great article. I’m sorry that I missed out on providing valuable feedback. I think it is much easier to blend a family when the children are younger. When my ex-husband and I blended families, three of my kids were teens. I don’t think they ever really accepted him, but did try to make an attempt to “respect” him. There needs to be a courting period amongst everyone before a couple can think about blending two families together. If not, there will be some resentment, as was the case with my own. You can’t just spring someone on your children and expect them to be happy and merry about it. These things take time. A lot of time.
First and foremost: GET TO KNOW THE OTHER PERSON!! It is simply foolish to parade people in and out of the kids’ lives. Give it a few months to see if that person might want to stick around for a little while. It doesn’t have to lead to marriage, but you have to be careful. Kids get attached to someone and could start to resent you for them leaving.